By Chevoyne Green, Class of 2020
They start their day reviewing their lines for the spring musical over a cup of coffee. They each gathered pens, notebooks, and their scripts as they headed out the door hand in hand. Each day they walked to class together sharing a few goodbye kisses and hugs as they departed for another long school day.
“Saint Peter’s is the reason why we’re together, so I would’ve never met her if it wasn’t for the school,” said Patrick Curcurullo, sophomore, Political Science major.
In college, some students are faced with the challenge of maintaining romantic relationships along with juggling classes and more. According to the CAPS, Counseling and Psychological Services’ webpage, students at Saint Peter’s University sometimes experience when it comes to navigating a relationship.
According to Campus Explorer, studies show most college students would rather be involved in short-term relationships opposed to long-term. Students would rather spend more time focused on their studies than maintaining a long-term relationship.
An informal poll taken at the university revealed that 66.7% students agreed that relationships are worth it if you find the right person to commit to.
Sophomore couple Alexandra Antonucci and Patrick Cucurullo describe how to maintain a healthy relationship.
Sophomores, Alexandra Antonucci and Patrick Cucurullo were introduced during practice of last spring’s musical.They started off as friends. then became really close, spending almost every day together. After the production, they decided to explore their romantic feelings. The couple has been dating for seven months. Besides seeing each other in class, they try to spend as much time as they can while tending to their responsibilities by prioritizing. Antonucci believes that a major contribution to maintain a healthy relationship while being a student is time management.
“Definitely find a balance between school and your relationship. Also, don’t let the stress of school get to the two of you. Your partner is there to make things easier, not more difficult,” said Antonucci.
To help students through stressful situations, CAPS, provides free service to students who seek help whether it involves a relationship, stress, or even trauma. Gail Conte, Office Manager and Secretary, is the first person students interact with when they need to schedule an appointment.
“Relationships in general comes with a lot of stress and some students are too young to be committed. Here at CAPS, we counsel students who are dealing with relationship issues and who are in need of help,” Secretary and Office Manager said.
Junior Maria Bautista discusses the struggles of breaking up in college.
Spending a year and three months in a relationship, Maria Bautista, realized that it was no longer what she needed. Maria and her ex girlfriend met at school. She said it was good at first but eventually it took a turn for the worse. Bautista’s relationship ended because of communication issues and lack of trust. After the breakup, Maria learned that it would be best to move on from the failed relationship and focus on herself.
“Although it was my first, it’s going to be my last for while. At this age, we forget to realize what’s really important. Relationships are there all the time; careers, school, and the future should be our main focus,” The junior said.
As for dealing with a breakup, she advised that one should always focus on themselves and find distractions.
Being a resident at the school, Santa Alcantara, sophomore, doesn’t involve herself with relationships on campus. She finds herself focused on school work and personal development.
Alcantara mentioned several factors that can contribute to a healthy relationship both on and off campus. “I feel like there needs to be a lot of communication, loyalty, respect, and effort.” said Alcantara.
Similar to Alcantara, Mamadou Ndiaye, junior, believed that there is more to relationships than the status of being in one. Being a basketball player at Saint Peter’s University comes with a lot of perks as well as misconceptions. Ndiaye, discussed how people perceived his team when it came to relationships.
“There’s a stereotype with basketball players, that they aren’t loyal or not straight up. That’s the misconception. There are really good dudes on the team like genuine people. People don’t know that though because they don’t know us,” said the basketball player.
Since his start at the school until now, Ndiaye has never been involved a relationship. He’s focused on school work, life, and basketball. For him, relationships are a commitment and it is something that requires effort from the two in it.
“Your education is more important. If someone comes along the way, then that’s cool. We’re young at the end of the day, so we don’t really know what a relationship should consist of. We don’t know how much effort should be put into it ,” said Ndiaye.
Graduate Arlene Ganess shares advice on dating in college.
Arlene Ganess, recent graduate, shared her opinion on relationships while in school. She was involved in a serious relationship at St. Peter’s. It had a strong start but was short lived because of the rumors and infidelity on her partner’s end. Although she had a bad experience, she remained optimistic.
“Most students think relationships are a distraction but I don’t think they are. Your significant other is supposed to help make you a better person and be there for you when things get rough. It certainly is not for everyone though,” said Ganess.
The former class president added, “It’s okay to be sad at first, but you realize that anyone would be lucky to be with you. You shouldn’t settle for less than what you deserve.”